How You Can Win Friends and Influence Them Positively

Written by: Jephthah

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Winning friends is like a fine form of art. It takes tons and tons of practice and requires you to have an increase in your confidence.

How you can treat your friend better can be a huge topic of study on it’s own. It can be plain simple while being contrastingly complex at the same time, depending on the kind of character you and your friend have.

Here are some ideas that I would like to recommend about on how you can go about winning and influencing friends in your life, that can be applied as of today.

Ways to be a better friend

The following are 9 ways where you can be a better friend to the loved ones around you.

1. Be encouraging
2. Be sincere and willing
3. Be honest and do not criticize
4. Discuss over conflicting issues in a proper and conducive manner
5. Help your friend if they are in need
6. Talk less, let your friend be the main person in sharing views
7. Be forgiving!
8. Be natural
9. Do not be self centered

Winning friends

So, how do we become strong in winning friends in our lives? We need to first be a good buddy to them.

Basically to be a good buddy to your friend is to be honest and encouraging. Being a good friend simply
also means that you would be there where your friend is in need of help, not when you need something from them.

Good friends don’t call up people only to request a favor.

Also be prompt to respond to your friends call, email or message. There’s nothing more frustrating than sending a friend an email or note, and having them ignore it because you are “too busy.” Everyone is busy.

It is important to be honest to your friend. If you have committed a wrong doing to your friend
without him or her knowing, it is necessary to let your friend know about the situation.
If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically. Then ask for forgiveness and reconcile the
friendship.

A good way to add value to a friendship is to be a good listener. Let your friend have a room to freely express his or her views. Be patient and attentive to what your friends say. Do not be quick to disrupt unnecessarily.

Another area of friendship which is important is to build your friend and create a great reputation that they can live up to.

In any areas, never criticize your friend in front of other people even if you think that he or her is at
fault. Don’t be part of the gossip train. Bad mouthing your friend is a very nasty thing to do.

What about if you want to show your friend about your new achievement? Never ever brag about your accomplishments in front of your friend. Bragging can be indirectly rude and it brings down the stature of your friend. Bragging or boasting is not healthy way to go towards having a good friendship.

It is also very important to show respect for the other person’s opinions. Even if you think his or her idea is bad, do not object strongly but recommend your friend with a better idea. It is good to praise and encourage one another often. A good way would be to praise even the slightest improvement or achievement that he or she had achieved.

Influencing your friend

Here are the 7 ways that you can influence your friend positively.

1. Be positive in your thinking
2. Have encouraging words
3. Be resourceful
4. Be creative
5. Dress smart
6. Take on the lead but not with self exalting intends
7. Good initiative

Keeping up with one another

Lastly you should work on keeping up with your friends. Be one of the first to know what is happening in your friend’s life. Get involved and be resourceful when ever there is a need. It’s not only about how you are a friend to be with, but how It’s your character and qualities that draws you to someone.

Having or being a good friend is indeed a reward experience in life. Friends are like our own family - they are our pillar of support! Whether during rain or shine, friends are and will always there for you. Authentic friendship is not about taking, but how much you could give and sacrifice.

So whats your point of view about winning friends and influencing them? Do share them in the comments below.

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