Ever wondered what this verse really means? I did not really understand it until today. This might be a very popular verse among the Christians, but those who are non Christians might have also heard of it. I will share with you today what this verse really means.

Your young men shall dream dreams

Friends, I believe that you are still young as you are reading this. This verse is especially for you. What does it mean to dream dreams? Many of us inspire to make it big by the time we hit 40 or some of us want to be some CEO of a big company. Yes, these are dreams and they are definitely achievable! Who says that dreams are limited to just the period when you sleep? When we dream dreams, we want to be someone, or do something that we think we can never be able to achieve. Yes my friends, dream big! Do not limit your dreams! Be focus on the things that you want to be and you will definitely be the person whom you have dreamt to be!

The power of dreams

Dreams are not just something that only exists when you are sleeping or when you are day dreaming, in fact, dreams have proven to be the driving success for a lot of successful businessmen and scientists who have contributed greatly to our society. Dreams are called dreams because they are achievable! Yes, they are. Dreaming to become a president was President Abraham Lincoln’s dream. Every dream that you have are achievable. Do not despise it! When you dream you are focusing on something that you want to achieve. You are telling yourself that this is what you want to do and what you want to be. Many businessmen whom I have known started their career with a dream. Some of them dreamt to earn their first one million dollars before they hit the age of 30. Many of them are successful. Bill Gates started his business by a simple yet powerful dream. He dreamt that there will at least be a computer in every family. He dream brought him to start one of the biggest companies in the world. Do you have a dream? Are you dreaming big? If you are, don’t stop yourself from carrying on that dream.

Why some dreams don’t come to pass

I know the questions that could be running in your mind. Many who dreamt big end up just living life just like a normal human being. I will not doubt the fact. It is true that many dreams and visions end up going to the graves. I was reading through the obituary column when I saw a 12 year old child on the page. She had big dreams and she would want it to come to pass, but she could not have that chance, because she was knocked down by a car. What would have happened if that girl was given a chance to live? What happened if her dreams of saving people from the third world really did come to pass? I was reading through her column and all I could think of was a dream that could have come to pass being buried into the grave. It is the same for each and every one of us. You all have world changing dreams and you can’t wait to see it come to pass. You tried to keep it to yourself such that you could wait for the right opportunity to see it come to pass. However, life is short and unpredictable. Why are you still waiting? Let your dreams come to pass.

How to let it come to pass

Dreams are fuelled by faith. Faith is not a very hard word. Faith is simply the power to believe. If you can see yourself having it, you will have it. Just to tell you a little bit about me. I am a dreamer. I love to dream, because every thing seems to be so beautiful when I dream. I once dreamt of being a scholar and studying in Germany. It used to be something that I could never be able to see myself into, because I was never really the very intelligent. As I started to believe that I am one of the scholars, my grades improved tremendously. Just to keep you updated, I will be applying for my scholarship by the end of this month!

Friends, your dreams might still be bottled up in that heart of yours. Let it out and believe that it will come to pass. Do whatever it takes to see the birth of it. Trust me. If you follow the things that I have written, your life will never be the same again. God bless you all!

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Here is a question for you: If you see someone about to hurt himself by falling on his next step, would you do something to warn or stop him?

Well I would like to share this post with you as I’m quite curious about how people will react when they see an immediate problem. I came across an incident while I was on my way back from work today. This incident led me to believe that humans have a trait in common.

I believe we all share the concern to warn the person next to us about any form of impending danger that can possibly befall. As a human being, I honestly feel that we share a certain degree of compassion or concern towards one another. At least we should have a minimal degree of concern for one another even though we are completely strangers. I am talking about a perfectly natural human trait. There is nothing to be shy or to feel ashamed about. Even certain forms of animal life also share the same trait of concern towards one another.

So why should we refrain ourselves, instead of putting this trait in a constant practice? Now let me bring you to the encounters I faced in my life regarding this trait. Let me show you two examples. The first incident happened when I was on my way back from work one day.

Encounter #1

Two construction workers were hacking the pavement below a building under construction. One of them was a very seasoned staff wearing a helmet, while the other being a newcomer wasn’t wearing a helmet. A brief amount of time later, a toolbox and some metal parts fell from the 10th storey. The objects landed almost a feet away from the new staff.

A big commotion ensues…

New Guy: Oh my goodness! That was close! It fell so close to me! Oh buddy why didn’t you warn me that I need to wear a helmet here?

Seasoned Guy: It’s your own fault for not knowing the rules.

New Guy: But I’m new and I am still learning. You could have warned me right? Buddy?

Seasoned Guy: This is not my problem and I’m not your buddy, we are just work acquaintances.

Supervisor: What’s going on here?

~ Safety Guy explains the situation to the Supervisor ~

Supervisor: Why didn’t you warn him when he joined you to work here?

Seasoned Guy: Not my duty to do that. It is out of my job description.

Supervisor: You are part of a team. You share the responsibility of caring for the members in our team!

How would you feel if you are that new guy who just started his job? Here is another incident that I have came across and I would like to share it with you.

Encounter #2

A mother and her child are waiting at a cross road junction. They were waiting on the lights to cross the road. A young man joined them. The mother goes over to the news stand. At that moment she did not realize that her child’s hand had slipped away from her’s as she was attending to her baggage. Her playful child tried to run across the road. The young man who was standing there saw this and did nothing to stop or warn the child. Almost instantly a van jammed its brakes and stop short of hitting the young child.

Here is how the conversation took place during the incident

Mother: Why didn’t you stop her?

Young man: It is not my fault, you should have taught your child better.

Mother: That is no excuse! Would you have done that if she was your own sister?

Mother: You were standing so close to my child when she ran to the road, yet you did nothing at all!

Young man: Crazy woman! (walks away)

Sadly the young man showed no concern for the mother and child. Instead of showing at least some concern to them, the young man mad a sarcastic remark.

It is sad to see how the society today had grew cold and unloving. You and I can play apart by making someone his or her day. A little care and concern is all we need to touch peoples lives. Let us all start by show care and concern towards one another. Let this world be a better place to live in as you and I can choose to make a difference.

How you can show concern to the person next to you?

• Be mindful of your language usage or possible language barrier during communication
• Try to be as humble as possible in your approach. Refrain from sarcasm
• Present advice in a politely manner
• Clearly state the consequence of the scenario you are in to warrant your need for advice
• If possible, you might want to introduce yourself first to develop a friendly atmosphere
• At the end of the conversation it will be great if you can make apologies to eliminate any misconceptions the person may have of you

These events are just troubling when observed personally don’t you think? You may wonder why did some of us or even myself stoop to such a selfish level? Am I the only person who has such views? Just sharing my 2 cents worth of experience. Have you ever had a similar encounter before?

You may share your views with us too. Thanks!

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Ever thought for a moment on how you would have reacted or acted out as some form of authority or “role figures” to some of the great characters that have graced our history when they were much younger?

Let’s say, your child was Albert Einstein, or you were William Shakespeare’s English language teacher, or even acquaintances of Thomas Edison as examples, what would you have said to them prior to becoming well known figures in our modern century history?

Hypothetical scenarios (way before they hit it big time)

That means, the following quotes are entirely made up, and may not possibly reflect real situations that the following characters faced when they were younger.

English teacher to 10-year old William Shakespeare:-

“Please could you not try to talk like that? We can’t understand a single word you were saying!”

Albert Einstein’s parents to him when he was 20:-

“Stop it with your relativity thing! The only thing about relativity that we can say is that no work means no money!”

Acquaintances to a young mid 20’s Thomas Edison:-

“There you go again. Failed for the tenth time and you are back at this again! Will you just quit it?”

Friends of biblical character Job to him during his early 40’s:-

“Why are you continually giving your offerings while your eldest child isn’t doing the same as you?”

Though we wouldn’t know that if the people around them at that point of time did actually say those, but what I am certain about is that we have definitely read about them turning out to be extremely successful, wealthy, and had their names imprinted throughout time. If that’s the case, I wonder what they had faced during the times when they were still carving out their future when they were in their “stepping stone” stages in their lives.

Maybe you are in a starting phrase in a whole new direction and focus that you are moving towards in today, and have heard similar words as quoted above.

Here’s one assurance and a good news for you…

Not fearing failures: they made it (and so can you)!

And definitely they had done so with much sweat, bloodshed, tears, and tons of hard work after each and every failure, until they tasted the eventual joy (the glory of that victorious moment).

Caught that emphasis in the last paragraph? It was on the word called failure. Time to shed some light on that word now, and let’s have no fear in facing that.

What about: failure?

Here’s what I’ve got from the dictionary on that word:

• An act or instance of failing or proving unsuccessful; lack of success
• Nonperformance of something due, required, or expected
• Condition or fact of being insufficient or falling short
• A cessation of proper functioning or performance

Now, I present to you the counter-approaches and a mindset change that will overcome the fear of failure:

1. An act or instance is only for a moment! Take action with a different or improved method the next time.

Bingo. Failure is never final. However cliché it may sound, but that guy who came up with that sure got it right! If this act or instance proved unfruitful, use another approach instead! Or change a step or two in the process that would improve the creation or progress at the next round. Thomas Alva Edison is best known for making countless mistakes which he used his full diligence to push through for a breakthrough and created the light-bulb. If he had stop at the tenth time, we might have been stuck with either using candles or extreme powered light sources today.

If Edison had a needle to find in a haystack, he would proceed at once with the diligence of the bee to examine straw after straw until he found the object of his search… I was a sorry witness of such doings, knowing that a little theory and calculation would have saved him ninety per cent of his labor. Nikola Tesla, New York Times, October 19, 1931

2. Nonperformance in an area today? Change your job, or create work that compliments your strengths!

I was studying for a diploma in Information Technology: Mobile Computing, a course that was supposed to finish in 3 years, but I completed in 4 and a half. Needless to say, I barely passed my overall grade to move on out from polytechnic life with a GPA of 2.07.

However, one thing I realized about my life in those 4.5 years was that I found some things that I had aced in, like in mini modules that deals with people management, or even ethical issues, team leading, and also in presentation giving. Even before graduation, I tried out in applying for a job as a person without any diploma and had secured one for S$3.8k monthly which there will still be bonuses and commissions added through the month (which I had to turn down as I had to complete school which does not allow us to take on any additional work outside)!

Just at the start of the year, I was talking to a senior manager in a well established retail / departmental shopping center, and I checked on the amount that I could receive if I were to join at the end of this year if I was looking for a job to do. The amount increased to over S$5.5k monthly, which definitely isn’t the final amount as it was a sales management position that would come with the commission perks too!

And two months later, some guy actually tried twice and had to be rejected again and again as he wanted to present to me artworks and paintings that are valued at over S$1k each! I didn’t get to see them, but I last heard that he brought a huge bag, and each could easily store about a handful of paintings or more without the frames.

All that exponential increase in value comes not because I was doing what I had majored in with the diploma that took me a while to achieve, all those came as I was doing one thing that mattered the most: being myself (yourself even).

I am a firm believer that if we could not find any career that we would like to do or be in, we have the power to create work that we could be passionate in, and of course, draws in the high margin income while we are at it!

My mom is one testimony on how that which I had mentioned works. She started and is running a profitable home office business that deals with the fashion and accessories market. And it was only last month which she had got to purchase her car while her business expanded and grew in slightly over a period of a year.

So, if you are nonperforming in an area or job that you are in today, cut yourself off and get a new job totally, or go for a safer parallel transfer if you are in a wonderful company already, or create your own work and profit from it now.

3. Falling short or totally insufficient? Sit down, plan, refocus, or… look at what you have today first

Failed due to falling short and way behind your own expectations? Maybe it is time to set some achievable goals in form of milestones rather than going straight out to carry that huge boulder at the first try.

It could be that the goals that you set were actually achievable! Except that you have told yourself that you lack certain stuffs (paper qualifications, skills, manpower, money, resources… just to list a few) that could have made you a huge success in a shorter period of time. This means that you were expecting that you need only the biggest things in the world to create big wealth.

I remembered that there was these few verse from the bible that speaks about a time of desperation for a widow who was about to lose two of her children after having lost the sole breadwinner of the family. And that she needed to raise a substantial amount (read: huge) of money to see a turn of fortunes and prevent the sons from becoming slaves to others.

A certain woman of the wives of the sons of the prophets cried out to Elisha, saying, “Your servant my husband is dead, and you know that your servant feared the LORD. And the creditor is coming to take my two sons to be his slaves.”

So Elisha said to her, “What shall I do for you? Tell me, what do you have in the house?” And she said, “Your maidservant has nothing in the house but a jar of oil.”

Then he said, “Go, borrow vessels from everywhere, from all your neighbors—empty vessels; do not gather just a few. And when you have come in, you shall shut the door behind you and your sons; then pour it into all those vessels, and set aside the full ones.”

So she went from him and shut the door behind her and her sons, who brought the vessels to her; and she poured it out. Now it came to pass, when the vessels were full, that she said to her son, “Bring me another vessel.”

And he said to her, “There is not another vessel.” So the oil ceased. Then she came and told the man of God. And he said, “Go, sell the oil and pay your debt; and you and your sons live on the rest.”

2 Kings 4:1-7, New King James Version

It was a popular passage that teaches about how we could actually look around us, and that our best form of resources need not have to come from the richest places in the world, but it could be found right after a little searching in close proximity.

For the widow’s situation, one of the things that she found was a jar of oil.

Replace that with what we could replicate, recreate, and improvise with some effort that doesn’t cost the world and could be found within our reach. You would already have a winning formula in the palm of your hands.

Of course, feel free to use that to your advantage and be generous while you are at it.

4. Ceased in proper functioning or not finding your purpose in your work? Set yourself up a whole new standard, give yourself a mission, or adopt a goal which you can work towards to!

In a nutshell, this means you got to do something that you believe it is worthwhile doing! That you can be passionate in, making it fun while being serious and giving full attention to your work.

You only fail if you stop yourself from moving.

However, the good news is that it is possible to adopt a goal or mission that may differ from your own personal task, job, or career too!

It is like listening to your favorite music while creating the next awesome article or graphic design artwork.

One core purpose (or mission) that Winning Everyone was created for is to build people up! This had been the same vision that drives us on in not only writing to spread this message which we could see people to adopt, carry on, and commit themselves into doing. It is the application part which excites us, and it is the interaction to hear how others had done so and found that they work that motivates us to bring Winning Everyone up to another notch of excellence.

What you could do to help is to contribute by words of encouragements, finances, and also sharing this blog to your friends and carry on together in the same vision in building one another up!

They do not need any reason to become a success in the things that they do!

Funny how there will be people who can find reasons on why you should quit doing things and be a “normal person”, and that apart from finding verbal excuses or explanations to make you stop, they might even go one step further and put you on prescribed medication to keep you still and flow with the possible absurdness of living a non-abundant life.

Let’s head back on to the first part of this post where we mentioned four great personalities and how they may have faced various negative comments about the work they were doing.

Imagine if they had stop right after allowing what those words said affected them:

• We wouldn’t get some of the best literature works of the century
  - attributed to: William Shakespeare
• We wouldn’t have heard of E=MC² (which helped scientists in getting more major breakthroughs)
  - attributed to: Albert Einstein
• We wouldn’t have cost-effective artificial light source, and there would not be General Electric (GE: formally known as “Edison General Electric Company”)
  - attributed to: Thomas Alva Edison
• We wouldn’t have a story on how the ultimate killjoy could be humiliated by the humbleness and patience of Job in the bible
  - attributed to: The Book of Job

More examples:

• If her mom actually met a doctor who would not have thought for a moment on the other possibilities regarding the lack of focus and her constant fidgeting around and had gave her some form of medication to get her to be still during classes - there wouldn’t be iconic musicals like “Cats” and “The Phantom of the Opera” with fantastic theater choreography
  - attributed to: Gillian Lynne
• If he were to stop playing basketball despite his size and accepting defeat about his lack of technical abilities on the court - we wouldn’t be mesmerized by the leadership and fine display of dunks and skills of one of the greatest legends in the NBA with his titular jersey number #23
  - attributed to: Michael Jordan

Thank goodness that they had made it and not let any reasons stop them from doing the things that they love to do and had made it!

So, do you (and WE) need any reason to do live a purposeful and an abundant life?

That photo of Einstein, featured at the start of this article, was taken right after his 72nd birthday in 1951. It was said that he had it with the constant barrage of questions and snapshots by the media and finally showed the tongue after a request to pose for a birthday photograph, and was captured right at the moment by a press photographer (Arthur Sasse). Which after it was published, Albert Einstein saw it and liked the image that he cut it out and distributed to his friends!

Yeps. He had enough of all the reasons that asked him to do something else (regardless how encouraging or with good intentions) by many other people. He knew he wanted to just leave the place and get on by doing his work, and… that’s right, he showed the tongue!

If you have realized, one common thing that all the people mentioned in this article have is their tremendous wealth! And I am not talking only about their mental or physical wealth. It is their personal net worth that I am referring to here.

They are almost all multi-millionaires, and some of them have created a huge following and established companies that are worth in the billions that helped others along the course in their lives!

Now ask yourself these questions… and take action!

Do we need any reason to believe that you can have a change in your life that is better than today?

Do we need any reason to be of a good cheer and a generous giver with an open heart?

Do we need any reason to get our healing today?

Do we need any reason to continue doing what we know would be a strong and powerful success in time?

Do we need any reason to build people up to empower us to be bigger than we can ever see before?

Whatever answer you give to those questions above, let’s take action and be a person who have been built up and became much enlightened, educated, and encouraged now!

Be part of a powerful body of people who are into building one another lives’ up to another level, equipped with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding, and have a generous heart of a giver, creating a philanthropic culture that waters and grows others as you are increasing in abundance in your own personal net worth today!

The powerful thing about taking action now, is that we break free from other people’s expectations over on our lives, but we set us up our own standards which we can live up to and accomplish over time. And you will definitely get to meet up with great people in your lives, and receive powerful words that will push you through and bring you forward in the goals and visions that you have.

Here’s one verse that a friend of ours have sent that had found from the bible that strongly encouraged us and builds up our foundations of the core vision of the Winning Everyone name:

So encourage each other and build each other up, just as you are already doing.
- 1 Thessalonians 5:11

The good part is… I am sure that you will have a life that you can believe in that can make changes and impacting people in your life.

Let’s take action now!

Be a people builder together with us, just as you have been doing.

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Editor’s note: Ever met with guardian angels who are quick to encourage, motivate, and build others up? Do they ever get discouraged in their own lives and who are going to guard them like how they had done for you? Here’s a great article written by our friend Ganapathy right here on WE!

Throughout our lives we have met and worked with several people. During these experiences we have often faced much pleasant and in some cases the really nasty ones where certain kinds of people seem to be just there to take pleasure in scrutinizing and mocking at your politeness or show of goodwill.

There may have been times where you would have asked yourself “who does that person think he is?” or “do they take me for a fool, me and my big mouth; I’m not going to bother next time”. It’s not surprising that you would have wondered at least once on why certain human beings behave this way?

You could have even concluded that “different people talk, think and do things differently” It is important that you don’t let these people get you down as most of the time these people are just being ignorant or too full of themselves to respect your intentions. They may not reveal their true feelings easily but did you know apart from the nasty people that were mentioned here, that there are people of the complete polar opposite in terms of character actually exist? You may not have come across them due to their low profile but they do exist.

Let’s call them the “guardians“.

Even as the guardians go around and out of their comfort zones to help others just like you have been doing, they too receive remarks such as “stupid, dumb, crazy or even idiot” from members of society (yea its surprising what people say isn’t it?) Why do guardians continue to do this? Its logically unsound in terms of efficiency so then what drives them to do this? Is there a catch somewhere? Well we are shocked to come across the answer.

You see in this day and age where people are mostly concerned about profit, money and how to take advantage of others, there are still people like the guardians who carry out these random selfless acts as it gives them a strong sense of satisfaction happiness to make a difference in someone else life. It may be a small sacrifice of time, simple teamwork to finish a task or even staying back to listen to a stranger’s problems as long as it helps. The efforts they made is worthwhile for them.

Now don’t get me wrong; they aren’t perfect (they sure try to do everything themselves to prevent from being a burden to others) in fact, they are far from it. I have observed some of them to be really picky about their friends, completely paranoid about being a burden to others or really reluctant in asking for help when they really need it.

The point isn’t in cross examining these people as they had set themselves up to be or in how well they work behind the stages of limelight to avoid society’s attention, but rather the simple points they have taught us all. I firmly believe that the smaller things in life have been forgotten by most people; simple things like hearing a person out or helping out someone (had we stop doing that because we were afraid of being thought as doing that for our own personal benefit?).

I believe the world will be a much better place if people just start helping the person next to them.

Small acts of kindness and expressions have a habit of making a huge impact on a person’s life. The world still isn’t as bad as you think it is, although these “guardian types” are often being taken advantage of, you might be surprised where you can actually find people like them.

I know there are times when we all despair and lose hope in the world but don’t give up! There are good people all around us! It is just… slightly harder to find them, as they might be weary of being taken advantage of you see. If you are in a lot of trouble talk it out with someone… anyone. They might have a way out or they maybe able to give you ideas.

These guardians won’t give up on you; so why should you? Help each other, and you can find yourself ending up helping your own - and not the other way around.

Who guards the guardians? That’s easy! Only other guardians and those who know them well can do that. Try working in a team, life can seem very much different than it usually is…

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Last Easter brought me into a reflection of God’s love. It was a reflection as I wrote an article for my blog, Reason-4-Smile Weblog. It was the last article on Limitation and Advantages series; a series that is very close to the theme in my blog, “turning limitation into advantages“.

Do you see your limitation as advantages?
The series talks about winning with your limitation. None of us like to have limitation. We all aim for the best of what we can be.

But here is a quote that stunned me…

What you resist will persist, but what you befriend, you will transcend.
~ Robin Sharma

Robin Sharma, a teacher in leadership, stated that overcoming our limitation comes after we befriend them. That may sound extreme, but it’s a perspective that we can change towards our limitations and things that we dislike about our life and our past.

Befriending means enjoying your life

Befriending them means that you’re enjoying who you are today, and that includes your limitations. You can be happy now, and that means you do not have to wait until everything is fixed before you can be happy. You should not postpone happiness.

Befriending means embracing your limitation

Befriending also means that you acknowledge them, be responsible about them, express them, and even make use of them. Limitations are your stepping stones; they may help you to shape your life, to change your character, to grow and improve, and to motivate you to reach your goals. A stepping stone is useful in reaching your dream, but a stepping stone is not your best friend. One day you will need to leave them behind, and you should not carry it with you to the top.

But this message is not about you…

Yes, this article is not about you. It’s about the others, about winning others. As what Daniel Richard said, Winning Everyone is about building people. Now, it comes down to the question: Is it really possible to win people with our limitations?

Most of us have trouble helping others and sharing God’s love to others. If you’re like me, you often troubled with your limitations and think that you’re not worthy enough to win people. We will always find excuse about our inadequacy. We often think that our life is not holy enough, not capable enough, or we are not the best example yet. Our struggles, weaknesses, and limitations often give us the reason to hold back and procrastinate in winning people.

But… do you know that there is one person who is limitless but willing to limit himself to win others?

Yes, I talk about Jesus. Let us see what Paul said about Jesus…

For this reason he had to be made like his brothers in every way, in order that he might become a merciful and faithful high priest in service to God, and that he might make atonement for the sins of the people. Because He Himself suffered when He was tempted, He is able to help those who are being tempted. ~Hebrews 2:18

Jesus is God with all of His glory and limitless capabilities. He is beyond any limitations. He is the omnipotent, omnipresent, omni-benevolent God. And yet, He is willing to humble Himself. He comes down to our humble earth, born as a baby in the manger. Even more, He is willing to suffer and hunger. He accepted the criticism, judgment, mockery, betrayal, and even the cruel treatment from people. He imposed human limitation upon Himself so that He is able to help us who are tempted in the same way.

Winning people with our limitations

Jesus is a real example that everything is possible through God. He is also a real example of obedience despite of suffering and bad circumstances. And He is able to relate to human being, only if He imposed limitations on Himself, as it is shown on how He came to this world as a human being. The limitations made him a real example that anyone can pursue holiness, that anyone can pursue God’s call in life. A real example that impossible is nothing.

Similarly, each of us human has limitation, and it shapes us on how we should use our life for God’s purpose. Our limitation is there as an example of how you can relate to others. I will take Joyce Meyer as an example. She has a bitter background where she is abused by her dad. On her life journey, she struggled to accept her past, to throw out the bitterness inside her heart and also to accept how different she is from any other woman. Now, she has reached a point where she has been a blessing to many others. She is now a proof that anyone can overcome their bitter past experience. How she is able to stand right now is already a great testimony to others. And in the same way, anyone of us will be an example how we can life our best life despite of our limitations.

You have a role to play

We are not called to be everyone. Instead we are called to work with one another. Our limitations are also there so that we can team up with one another. One may not be the reaper, but one may be the one sowing, growing, or watering. It is the role with which we have to play in winning people.

What steps can you take to start winning people with your limitations?

1. Be thankful for the limitations you have

Realize that whatever your limitations right now maybe part of a bigger plan that God has in His mind. Be thankful as it is a part of the process you have to go through. Believe that God is able to use you much more to win people because of what you’ve gone through right now!

2. Make it as an advantage

Thomas Edison thanked his deafness to help him ignoring all the criticism he had. W. Mitchell, after got his accident that damaged his spinal cord and left him paraplegic, thanked the suffering he got to help him focus. Helen Keller lost both her sight and hearing, but she managed to inspire many others that anyone can overcome the overwhelming obstacles. With a different perspective, you can see your limitations as advantages. In this opportunity, I would like to share 2 messages on the advantages of limitations as well; one for ourselves and another for our relationship with others.

3. Start with what you have

You can start with whatever you have. We are not called to compare to one another. That will only make us feeling inferior, if not superior. With a different attitude, we will be able to look at what we have, start with it, and do the best with it.

My blog is started with a similar attitude. It’s a step that I take with whatever I have. I may not be a good speaker yet, my English may not perfect, but I move forward and take a step. And I really experience growth along the way. Similarly, I want to encourage you to always start with whatever you have. The growth will come as you make the steps.

I hope this article helped you to see a different perspective on your limitations. You can start winning people now, even with all your limitations!

For your success,
Robert

Editor’s note: Robert is one of the newest member / content creator to join the Winning Everyone (WE) team! He is also running his blog at Reason-4-Smile where he helps introverts to become successful in their lives. Thanks again Robert for being part of us!

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The love between Adam and Eve

It is said in Genesis that God saw Adam was alone and needed a helper. Thus God took a out a piece of rib from Adam and breathed life into it. God created Adam a partner through a miracle. This helper of his is the world’s most beautiful creation besides Adam himself. Adam’s new partner is a wonderful addition to his life. His helper is a woman created by God. Adam named his partner Eve and fell in love with her. To Adam, Eve is the most beautiful partner he ever had and he is the luckiest man on earth. To Eve, Adam is the most charming partner and she had fallen head over heels in love with him.

For a relationship to be long lasting, both parties have to give in to each other. Love can bring about healing in each others life. Love is never selfish and therefore it is a responsibility that both parties have to shoulder. Love is not all about getting, but truly it is about giving to each other unconditionally.

To build a long lasting relationship…

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1. Don’t make empty promises

Never ever let your promises go unfulfilled. When you want promise your lover something, make sure that you make realistic promises that you can achieve. Discipline yourself to make sure that you fulfill it; whatever it may cost to you. It will be better if not to say a thing rather than breaking the promise that you had made.

2. Say sentences like “you are so beautiful”

It is very important that in a relationship, both parties compliment one another. Never be too shy to say words that sound mushy. Being shy builds an unnecessary barrier in a relationship. When you truly love someone, never hold back yourself in expressing your gratitude of love. I am sure that your partner will be touched if you take a step to say how much you love him or her. Be bold, and be of good courage: say something nice today.

3. Give him or her a warm hug

Feel free to express your love by giving each other a hug. Imagine you just had a warm embrace from your partner, how wonderful would that have felt? Now if you can be the one to give that embrace to someone you love, how great will that be! Love sometimes have to be tender. Love must be able to be felt not just by feeling alone, love needs to be experienced physically. Thus a warm embrace will be a good way for your partner to feel loved.

4. Having a contagious smile

Smiling is a good and healthy way to add spice in a relationship. A smile can soften a person’s heart. A smile to someone can brighten his or her day. Smiling is polite and it makes the person feel appreciated and welcomed. Do smile often to your partner!

5. Let each other have a room to share

Sometimes in a conversation, are you usually the one who talks for most of the time? If that’s the case, you might need to tone down and listen to your partner about what he or she has to share. If your partner is an introvert in nature, you can encourage him or her to share by starting conversations in the areas that he or she is comfortable and familiar with. For example, you can ask your partner about his or her hobbies and get the ball rolling with the topic that your partner is familiar with.

6. Be humorous

A relationship that is always predictable isn’t healthy sign. Without a sense humor , the relationship can be stale and boring. In a healthy relationship, it is also vital to be creative and funny. Humor is a good way to let relationships blossom. It is recommended that you make some effort to tell jokes and tease your partner. A relationship that is humorous adds flavor and life to love. Humor can brighten up a person’s day too.

7. Strengthening starts with common grounds

I am pretty sure that you and your partner have common grounds like sharing the same hobbies and interest together. I recommend that you to find out what your partner have in common and make some effort to enforce it. Take some time to go out with your partner, do activities like playing a sport, go shopping or catch a movie together.

8. Sacrifice is necessary

Occasionally love requires you to give in more than your partner. You have to let go of certain things that are important to you. Lets say your partner hates smoking and it happens that you are a heavy smoker, you may need to start taking action and quit smoking. Are you able to sacrifice for your love? If you stumble upon this question, then you may need to reevaluate how deeply you love your partner.

Are you ready for love?

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Love is a beautiful gift. It knows no boundaries. For those of you who had tasted love before but wasn’t successful, do not be disheartened. Take courage and give love a try again.

Love is unconditional and it is pure.

Love shines light to our lives and gives us the courage to do the impossible.

Love is something we simply find it hard to live without.

God intended for both men and woman to be united as one. Loving somebody is a wonderful journey that takes you and your partner into a perfect union. Having a partner in life is very important, you’ll have somebody to share your joys, visions and dreams with. You can also find refuge when you are bogged down by troubles.

Love is not only about having fun and joy all the time, but in times of trouble love can protect and heal the brokenness. The beauty about love is that both you and your partner develops a dependency towards each other, whereby both of you will need each others strength to overcome obstacles in life. Such dependency are also needed in the areas of emotion and security, whereby both parties fulfill each others needs. It is and had definitely been God’s original intention to give Adam a helper to assist him in his destiny. Thus having a partner in your life also helps you to fulfill your destiny, be it your dreams and goals in life.

So now you have read my little article about love.

Let me ask you a question: are you already in a relationship? If you aren’t in love, do you have someone in mind?

Are you ready to LOVE SOMEONE?

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Today being a Saturday, meant that it was my church day (service doesn’t always fall on a Sunday)! And I was humbled by one incident that stuck in the back of my head till now, and I’d share with all of you which will tremendously make an impact in your life and in building people and friendships.

Familiar people, new faces

Being in church, it would be natural to see new faces coming in to join us for the weekly services, and even in our own connect groups that are growing in a healthy rate, there will be people who’s names I would not be able to remember after one day’s outing.

Today, I sat down beside two people, one of whom I saw before during an outing, while the other is a totally new person to me.

I turned to the one I’m familiar with, and as I shook hands with him I had wanted to greet him but could not get past the “hi”.

My mind turned blank!

I could not recall his name, and that was totally not cool at that point of time.

1 tip that is valuable in life: Remembering Names

It was only after an awkward moment of silence before I surrendered to the fact that I couldn’t remember his name before I asked him politely again for that short intro again as a refresher for my mind.

Thankfully, he was okay with that as he re-introduced himself to me.

This would be the one simple tip that is valuable in our lives, and that would be remembering names.

Frankly speaking, I am not exactly the type of person who would proudly claim that I can remember all the names and faces of everyone I meet on the streets. Heck! There were 2 other times today where I had bumped into 2 different friends, once while I was walking around one estate after a meeting, while the other was in the evening when I was doing some window shopping at the mall with my dear friends after the service, and I could only recall both the face and name of the 1st one, while I can only recall the face of the 2nd except for his name.

Exercising that tip and applying it immediately

It was after that incident in church when I decided to make it a point to remember the 2 names of the people who were seated beside me, and get it to still stick in me even at the end of the day before I go to bed.

You might want to try doing that after going for a meeting or a social event after knowing a few new people, and getting acquainted with maybe a handful. Get to remember their names and faces and get them to be in my head even after the event ended.

One method that I use to do that is to do a genuine introduction after a firm handshake.

If time allows, maybe the elevator pitch might come in handy for such a situation, that extends the introduction to more than just giving your name and a warm greeting.

Going one step further and pray for them / building them up even when they aren’t there

Here’s one that I just thought of while writing this entry, which is to pray for them at the end of the day even when they aren’t in close proximity.

Winning Everyone is into building people up! One way we can do that is through prayers. What better way to get one friend closer into our lives than to pray for him or her right at the end of the day (or during your set devotional time)?

That is one good excuse to actually talk behind a person’s back, which is to speak words of encouragements or pray for the person’s week ahead for a smoother journey or for interesting change to see more positive signs appearing in his / her day.

Even if you might not get to see that person again in a few months or years time, it is definitely better to leave a powerful blessing (approval) over the life of that new friend you made, by acknowledging the time spent was well worth it and that you can empower them from afar through prayers with strong words of affirmations or encouragements.

This would be one great way to build someone up too!

I am going to do that last point now. Hope that you have got hold of something out from this article.

Shoutout to the 2 friends who I was seated with during church service this afternoon! Zijie and Gabriel, I remembered your names! Glad to have seen both of you there today, and do grow stronger and shine in your school, both as good friends and students in your respective classes or co-curriculum groups.

And to all of you who are reading it now, go have a wonderful Sunday ahead! Thanks for the read and remember to share it with your friends too!

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Here’s the first part of a series of articles titled “The Wisdom of Soccer” that are dedicated to all of us who are into the Euro 2008 season this month.

Lesson #1: “The ball is round”

Here’s a cliché that you have most probably heard everywhere you go (or maybe last hear it coming out from a football-fan-of-a-friend of yours minutes ago).

“The ball is round”.

That phrase is used to describe a powerful fact that anything is possible! Which includes both the good and bad parts that an individual involved in that sport would have faced, be it from club players, to managers, and goes all the way even to the dedicated supporters and fans of their favorite teams.

And I’d give a mention to some of the more obscure points that I’ve came up with from that very quote alone:

1. A shot might not always result in a goal

Productivity blogs have one similar trait which is in giving advice on how we can hit goals, reach our targets, and motivating readers to try out the new 5-steps, 14-steps, or 10-step ways to get us closer to getting things done.

Here’s one truth. Not everything we try today are a surefire way to success for the near future!

2. Goals do come from shots that people try despite “impossible” situations

There are lots of superb goals that we love to see that were taken from seemingly impossible places!

From David Beckham’s 70 yard goal against Wimbledon early in his career.

To a mid-field strike that set a record of fastest goal in women’s college history.

And here’s one from Joe Cole against Sweden during Euro 2006.

One more from a magnificent overhead volley in an indoor football tournament.

Okay, last one for this point with a compilation of 10 superb goals… using the back of the heels at the tightest positions!

The following goals were scored by some of the best players in modern times from Del Piero to Gianfranco Zola, to the best two goals made by Van der Vaart and Kendi Kalesine (definitely worth the mention).

Those are the goals that footballers love to score, and thanks to video technology, they can be replayed and talked about for the years to come!

And the joy of scoring goals from hard situations too are why we continue to pursue and achieve our ambitions, reaching goals that are above our reach today.

3. Perfecting their instincts!

One thing I realized after watching the above clips was that they had to make a decision to strike on the fraction of a second that resulted to those goals.

There are numerous choices they can make at the point of time when the ball is passed to them, and given the limited time they have before the ball reaches to them, they had to make up their mind on the next approach to take. They could pass the ball, or lay it off for someone else who could also do the job of taking the shot that may or may not result in a goal, or they could give up at that moment and cause the ball to miss them which could have resulted in an out or reaching the opposition team player’s feet.

It takes years of practice to get the simple shots and passes fine tuned to a level such that they would be confident that the move they make in the game will result in what they had intended to do with the choice they make there and then.

Upon practice, the players’ instincts on the pitch will then be perfected, thus allowing them to do what they do best for the whole squad.

That’s right. It takes practice, practice, and more practice to get the mental strengths up, along with their foot work, techniques, and skills that contributes and enabling the team to win matches.

4. Giants can be humbled

In this Euro 2008 tournament, both of the recent champions have been knocked out of the competition. The mighty Italy, winners of the World Cup 2006, lost out to Spain in the quarter finals, while Greece, the champions of Euro 2004, couldn’t get it’s spot in the final 8.

There are many more examples in league games when teams of smaller pockets (lesser budget given at the start of the season) can unlock defenses of stronger teams and eventually defeating them after the final whistle had been blown.

5. Unknowns can be kings

Who would have thought that Greece could make it to the finals of the last Euro 2004 competition - and became champions of that tournament?

Who would have thought that the Russians could have defeated Holland in this current competition, and are now one step closer to the finals?

Who would have thought that a team started by a group of school boys, aged fourteen to seventeen while chatting away on a bench in 1897, with a jersey color of bright pink could turn into a mega-rich football club today?

That third example was referring to Juventus, from the Italy’s “Serie A” league.

The picture on the right showed the pioneering players from a team photograph taken way back in 1898, just one year after they were formed.

Or let’s look at one more inspirational character in the world of soccer today, where a player just a handful of years ago was a tiny sized player who had total devotion and played his heart out in his soccer games, and is now one of the most well known player in his age.

That would be Lionel Messi, who was signed up by Spanish giants Barcelona FC, and given the space and technology to develop in his footballing skills and also increasing in his muscle mass to go against the growth hormone deficiency that he was diagnosed with when he was eleven.

I am sure that there are more rag-to-riches stories that comes from this great and wonderful sport we all have come to love.

So what if the ball is round?

It will still be round and stationary if nothing is done to it.

That means, the ball (or take it personally and referring it as you), will stagnant and be satisfied with your current position and shape if no action is being taken today.

It will deflate over a period of time if nothing is done to it.

Knowledge, wisdom, and understanding, will decrease. It takes air to form the shape of the ball to make it round as there is density in air. The good news is that a ball requires air to be pumped in to retain it’s shape over time.

It will not taste the back of the net if nothing is done to it.

Work is needed to be done if you want to experience the glory of that moment when a goal is scored.

The workers’ hunger helps them, because their desire to eat makes them work. - Proverbs 16:26, New Century Version

Take action!

That’s right. We got to take action!

Let us not get mentioned in the same sentence where a person would start off with a sigh and go on to say that “the ball is round” as he retreats back to a defeated mood for no particular reason.

I would rather that we get mentioned in a joyous state where people will say that “the ball is round”, and that we have accomplished great things and doing things that may seem impossible to them! With waves of crowd coming in to support after the huge victory and having a great time working with us together!

Start practicing (reading books, articles, or join people building activities) and applying your skills in the positions you are at today.

Continue or ask for a change in roles with a new mindset and attitude that builds up the team, enhancing the bond between all the teammates, while not avoiding the fact that there will be friction and sharpening taking place in the course of action taken.

Learn from the seniors, mentors, and people who are at the top of their game.

Humbling yourself to learning and following from the younger generation who too possess great skills and wisdom that are applicable to the level playing field that both generations are working in now.

Now that you are here, and that we have come to the end of the first lesson, make a choice. Let’s start winning on the grounds that we are on and start looking forward to the next lesson here on Winning Everyone!

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